Yes, that's right. I still consider myself a new mom. Why? I learn something new everyday. All of this is new to me. I'm writing this particular blog post because I've only recently realized I am a good mom and do not need others to tell me how it's done. I'm finding my own way.
I am the oldest of 5 children so when I got pregnant I already knew how to do lots of different things here or there. Sure I knew how to change a diaper, and how to feed my kid, what to feed my kid, and what not to feed my kid. I knew what I liked to dress my kid in. But dealing with the crying all night, or an achy tummy, or more recently temper tantrums AKA disciplining? No way. That was never my responsibility. It is now. And it is certainly new to me. As a new mom I have had a hard time figuring out how to do things MY way. Everyone is different. Everyone has to figure out what is best for them and their children. Since I've become a mom I have had lots of different people tell me the BEST ways to feed, diaper, clothe, discipline, and over all take care of MY child. For a long time I felt I needed to please people and follow their advice. They acted as if their way was the ONLY way. And heaven forbid if I did it differently they would judge and criticize me because again their way was the only way. Well I've got news for y'all. It's not. I believe there is a wrong way to parent, but I also believe there is no right way to parent either. Every single mom out there is going to be different. We all came from different homes, different backgrounds and different cultures. There are different ways to take care of a child. We all have to learn our own way. It's okay to try out someone else's advice, but if you find it doesn't work for you, try another solution. Because guess what? There is always another solution. My parenting might not be to your liking but it doesn't need to be. My child is not your child. You're not mom, I am. My child probably wasn't like your child because no two children are alike. What worked for your children might not work for mine. And when I do things differently don't judge me. You were in my shoes once weren't you? A new mom just trying to figure things out and it felt like everywhere you looked someone was looking down on you? Let's all try not to be that person since we've all had that experience at one point or another. I've only recently figured this out for myself. I let the criticism do my parenting for me. I didn't speak up when I wasn't okay with something. No more of that. I must admit I am pretty easy going as a mom. Most things don't bother me, which that in itself bothers other people as well. I discipline differently than you. Deal with it. Yes my kid gets candy (Happy kiddo=Happy mom). Yeah my kid runs around in a diaper lots of times because well we sit around the house a lot, it's summertime and yes it's hot out. Sure my kid is going to wear bloomers, because I think they are cute. I don't care if you didn't put your kid in them. My kid is freaking adorable and she can pull off anything. Bloomers and diapers included. For those of you who have judged me, stop. When I ask for help, that's when your opinions are wanted. Your parenting wasn't perfect, mine won't be either. We all have to figure it out. For those moms who are struggling with others judging you, It is okay to respectfully decline the advice because honestly you are probably doing a fantastic job as a new mom anyway. Be confident in your parenting. You should be proud you make it day by day because I tell you what, being a mom is the hardest job in the world. I don't care what anyone else has to say, it is. It's so rewarding to watch my kiddo grow up and I have loved every single minute of it. I'll admit some moments less than others but have loved it none the less. Hardest thing I've ever done in my life, but I'm figuring it out. I love my little girl with all my heart and all of my energy is going into raising her to be the best she can be. And you had better believe I intend to do it MY way.
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